Updates on Confusia's Fucked Up Situation...

Dear Terps, (Terps replies in blue)
Just when I thought life was interesting enough, all kinds of weird things occur. So I told you about the person I work with from time to time, and how I had developed a sort of crush on him. I also told you I didn't think anything would come of it, etc. He's very smart, and funny, and younger than me (Geez, like that's something different.) So the last day before break, he gives me his phone number, and I barely manage to not do cartwheels, right? I did however, manage to give him my number,too. The Monday after we got out on break, I looked at my phone and realized that he'd texted me the day before. I texted him back, and we end up going to a Lebanese restaurant and hookah bar, where, for the first time in my life, I smoked a hookah. I felt like Byron, or (more appropriately) Coleridge, only it was just tobacco. Hookahs are surprisingly pleasant. This was flavored with watermelon, and was very sweet. (The thought of it kind of makes me wanna gag. I hate watermelon. But please, continue...) I had a really good time with my new friend. After the hookah, I went home. A few days later, he took me and the baby to an arcade type place where we played pool and several arcade games. Again, alot of fun...A few days after that, I went to his place and we drank raspberry ale, watched alot of episodes of Red Dwarf, went to lunch, etc. I always have such a good time with him.
Meanwhile, Mr. Confusia, who, as you know, I have been separated from for over three months now, is very unhappy. (Shocking!) He doesn't live with me any longer, and isn't sharing my room, either, and he thinks this is all because of my new friend. (Despite the fact that you've been separated for several months and this just started???) No. It has more to do with the fact that I'm just totally tired of his endless drama and being in and out of my life. Together for two and a half years, he left me and the kids FIVE times...including three days after we got married (That was probably very telling...) and the day after we brought the baby home from the hospital. (Oh, for the love...) Don't know if you know this, but the last time he left, he threw a food processor threw my car windshield (Oh...that explains the windshield tape when you stopped by my house that morning...) , smashed the aquarium that was in our living room thereby flooding living room and kitchen (46 gallons is alot of water), smashed my phone, etc. He has NOW decided that I am the only woman in the world who can make his life complete. (Or, you're the only one who ever put up with his shit.) He knows he messed up, and is changing, etc. (And I have some ocean-front property I'd like to sell you.) He even got a tattoo that stands for "forever" on his ring finger. (I just threw up a little bit.) It is driving me berserk!!!!!! I cannot put enough exclamation points behind that sentence! I feel that he is just being territorial, like, "Oh, some guy is moving in on my woman, and I've got to prove that I'm the one she chooses.", etc. I think that if he thought I would stand still long enough for him to urinate on me to prove his point, he probably would. (Some women like that. Maybe he should do some research.) I don't like this. I think it's a bunch of middle school crap. (Which I assume you see enough of Monday-Friday from 8-4???)
So, I've got this situation...I really like this person who I have a crush on, and I'm really tired of the situation with Mr. Confusia. I want to go ahead and pursue divorce, but here's where I would like your opinion, and those of anyone else who have the misfortune to read this post...Do you think I'm bored and pursuing someone else because it's a new thing? or do you think I have adequate reason for not wanting to continue my marriage? (Hhhhhmmmm...here's where I'm confused. Usually when there is an A or B question at hand, the two answers are like opposite sides of a coin. If what you were asking is do you think I should give up on my marriage in order to immediately marry this other guy or should I give my marriage another shot, I'd understand the question, but as it's stated here, I don't seem how these two things are contingent upon each other. I think the answer could be yes to both of those. Could you be pursuing someone else because it's new? Yes. Do you have adequate reason for not wanting to continue your marriage? Yes. It would be one thing if the only reason why you are considering a divorce is to date this guy. But to my knowledge you were considering divroce well before you knew if there would be anything to this relationship with the other guy. If I am incorrect, and you have only begun to consider divorce because this guy might like you, then you need to do some serious thinking. If you are considering a divorce because your marriage is dysfunctional and it's something you would be doing regardless of who was in your life, then you know what you need to do.) He is being alot nicer, taking his medicine, etc. I just really think that as soon as he thinks he's got me, he'll start the whole stupid possessiveness, the controlling, the mindgames, and all the other shit he does up again. (Old dog, new tricks. Unlikely.) Mr. Confusia thinks my choice is between him and the other person. I feel like my choice is between him and the freedom to be myself without fear of being retaliated against. What do you think? Confusia, who is named very appropriately lately.
PS. I forgot to mention that this new person is SO interesting to me. I nver know what he's going to say or do next. I feel like my brain is waking up after a long slumber. That feels so good to me. I would also like to say that he does have access to this blog, though I don't know if he reads it or not. That is why he is being referred to as "person" instead of by his name...to protect the innocent, you know. Did I mention that I really like him alot? (Uhm...if this is some kind of covert operation so that he won't know that you're talking about him, I think you failed. He probably knows that he's the one you went hookah smiking with, no? Or is this some sly way of you telling him you like him without coming right out and saying it? Hhhhhmmmmmm.....coy.)